The original meaning of Valentine’s Day has nothing to do with the now traditional customs of sending flowers, cards and candy. It had more to do with an early saint called Valentinus who was imprisoned and tortured. The history behind this day is an interesting read but not exactly the stuff of Hallmark and Godiva Chocolate.

What if you are one of the many (though it might not seem so) for whom the advertising, marking and celebration of Valentine’s Day seems like a cruel joke? The advertising of Valentine’s Day starts early and it is difficult not to assume that everyone you know is probably sending pounds of chocolate, trucks of flowers and that one special card. For those who are not in a romantic relationship or who are in relationships that are sour, here are some tips for getting through the holiday.

 

  • Buy yourself some chocolate, flowers, or a plant. There are reported health benefits of both. Buying them after February 14 will also be cheaper. Health benefits at a fraction of the cost!
  • Find a way to move, laugh, and get some fresh air. Both exercise and laughter have proven positive impact on mood.
  • Spend time with people you love. Love comes in all shapes, forms, and connections. Love is Love is Love.
  • Go out of your way to do something unexpected for someone. Give yourself the gift of helping and receive a smile in return.
  • Get your female or male friends together to make dinner, see a movie, or cook something new. Staying in can be the new going out.
  • Pamper yourself.
  • Don’t compare yourself to the “others” you think are having a better time than you. You have no way of knowing how they are really getting along.
  • Remember that Valentine’s Day is one day and love can start with you.